This past weekend we went to Maine for a long weekend, for our “babymoon”.
I was on the fence about even doing a babymoon in the first place because 1. It felt like another way to just spend money on things you don’t need (like Valentine’s Day, silliest holiday ever) and then 2. I couldn’t drink so would it really be that much fun? I know it’s terrible that I even am thinking that way, but I’m just telling ya’ll the truth!! Nothing beats a glass of wine at happy hour or ordering a bottle of wine when you go out to dinner with your husband, nothing. So I was feeling like I would just be bummed I couldn’t/wouldn’t be doing that.
I was very wrong.
We ultimately ended up deciding to do it anyway because I wanted time away with just Dan. Which really is the whole point of a babymoon, time alone together before the baby comes.
Sure we live together and see more of each other than we ever have with COVID, but it’s just not the same as a vacation. When you go on vacation you get the excited jitters weeks before. You pick out just the right outfits to feel super cute in and then spend your extra time getting excited while looking up what to do while you are there.
It’s an event, it’s exciting, it’s something to look forward to, and something we could do together.
We decided on Maine because we just wanted to do a long weekend. I would have loved a week away on an island but honestly, if I am spending a week vacation away, I want to be able to do all the things physically and socially (aka drink and eat what I want). I would much prefer to do a vacation like that sometime after the baby comes, not before.
We also decided on Maine because when I think of Maine I think “low key” and “beautiful”, especially in the Fall. For a babymoon, low key, relaxing, and beautiful are all exactly the things I was looking for. And it was exactly that.
We went to dinner at night, we went on walks by the water, took naps during the day, walked in the downtown areas for both Ogunquit and Kennebunkport. Took a trip to the LL Bean store, obviously, and got baby M the cutest little fleece suit. We scheduled a Boujee massage, and then a fancy pants dinner one night. Had “happy hour” out at our hotel looking as the boats were coming in with the sun setting, and the leaves changing color in the background.
There were so many times that we just sat down, didn’t really talk much, and took in our surroundings. It was honestly glorious. I never ever do that, nor do I ever want to. But being there in that slow-paced environment it just felt like the right thing to do, and boy it was.
Then, of course, the best part was spending so much time together. We talked about Beau, the baby, what we were excited and nervous for, and just enjoyed each other’s company. It was so simple, so easy, and exactly what we both wanted and needed.
Diving into parenthood has been a crazy, scary, and a wild ride. We have no idea what we are doing and know even less what to expect in the next couple of months. But it did remind us what we do know, we do know each other. We know that we love each other, and I know that with Dan I can get through and figure out anything in life. And maybe that’s what this baby-moon is all about. To remind us why we are doing this in the first place, because of the love we share and the life we want to create together.
Baby M also decided to make his first appearance this weekend. All in perfect timing. =]
For the expecting mamas out there, I would highly recommend doing a little weekend getaway with your husband before that beautiful babe arrives. We kept it short, simple, relaxing, and beautiful, and it was exactly what my heart and soul needed. I hope it brings the same peace and joy to you. =]