I was inspired to write this blog after seeing the ‘Avengers: Endgame’ movie. I am not a crazy, obsessive Marvel diehard, but I am definitely a fan. I think they are funny and cool and if there is a popular Marvel film out I am likely going to watch it. My all-time favorites are ‘Guardians of the Galaxy’ 1 and 2. To me, they’re hilarious, light-hearted and have great endings, which is very important to me (otherwise I get pissed).
Without spoiling anything, at the highest level ‘Avengers: Endgame’ is the sequel to ‘Avengers Infinity War’, a pretty epic movie that brought nearly all the major Marvel superheroes together to fight the big, bad guy, ‘Thanos’, determined to end life as we know it. Simply put, things didn’t so great the first time around, so ‘Endgame’ is their second shot to kill the bad guy.
I don’t want to spoil the entire movie, so I won’t, but there was one scene in it that pulled at my heart and I can’t help but share. It was actually the only part that I got super emotional during the movie, but MAN it was good.
At one point, Captain Marvel is getting ready to carry the Infinity Stones away from the enemy to safety, but what’s in front of her basically couldn’t be any worse. Rapidly approaching is a sea of evil, black creatures. Rabid Gargoyle-like soldiers, slithering alien warships, armored mutant gorillas all sprinting towards her. Now, Captain Marvel is pretty rad, but still, the odds didn’t look good.
Spiderman looked at Captial Marvel and said, “I don’t know how you are going to get through all that”.
But out of nowhere rolls in the ultimate SQUADDDDD. All the female Avengers characters started flying in around her one-by-one, reassuring Spiderman, “Don’t worry. She’s got help.” For a second, they all stood around her tall, proud for a glorious moment, and then proceeded to kick all ass in the surrounding zip-code It. was. EPIC.
It’s a scene that probably no one is talking about except me, but in my opinion, it was by far the best scene in the movie and definitely one of my top 5 or 10 movie scenes ever.
I have been thinking about that scene for weeks now and have been trying to think about how I can write about it, besides the simple fact that I just loved it. Then, I was on one of my lunch walks and it came to me. Leveling up your squad.
This scene hit me in many different ways because it show was a perfect women empowerment moment. It showed friendship and women supporting each other, believing in each other and standing up for one another. Pretty much the best situation ever for all the girls out there that don’t always get the same superhero love as the guys. But, it didn’t really just stop at women’s empowerment.
It was the perfect example of what friendship and respect for a colleague SHOULD look like. The only way to get a squad as epic as the Marvel squad here to level up your own squad. Consciously surround yourself with people who believe in you and your dreams and who would fight through Demogorgon super creatures to help you succeed. Figuratively of course ;).
But, you all know what I am talking about here. We all have different groups of friends or colleagues. There are some who you know have your back always and would fight for you. Then, there are others who are a bad influence or they make you feel small and think your dreams are dumb.
When striving and working towards being the best version of ourselves we can’t have heavyweights like that holding us back. Now, I am not saying to ditch all of your friends who don’t always see eye-to-eye with you or are exactly like you. Our friends come in all shapes and sizes and being different from our friends in ways can be healthy. I am just suggesting to be mindful of how much time you are spending with the different types of people in your life and be sure you’re not surrounding yourself with negative influences constantly.
Motivational speaker Jim Rohn once said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with”.
Take a minute to think here. Who do you spend most of your time within a typical week? Think about who they are, what they do and what they stand for. Do you want to become more like that person? Do you want that person to influence how you treat others?
At some point in our lives, which will be different for all of us, it’s important for us to take a good look at the people around us and ask ourselves “How they are influencing us? Are they building us up or bringing us down?”
I did this in high school, college, after college, and before I got married. And it wasn’t something I planned. I just naturally started asking myself which of my friends I really trusted and looked up to, who I was a better person around and who I wanted in my life for the long haul. I naturally wanted to spend more time with the friends who built me up and made me feel good because I enjoyed them and I was proud of the person I was around them. I also look up to them in some way and respect the person that they are.
The friends I have today and the people I spend most of my time with I truly do think that they make me a better person and I know they are ALWAYS there for me no matter.
For those of you who maybe have never even thought about how the people who you spend your time with influence you, I put together a couple of things you can start to do or think about to level up your own squad.
Raise your personal standards.
To level up our squad we need to start with leveling up our own standards. Think about the person that you want to become. Who do you want to become or be remembered as? Maybe a great friend or the mom that has everything right or a badass businesswoman. Whatever it is we want to be, it starts with us believing in ourselves and our ability to become that person, followed by raising our personal standards to help us get there.
Then the question is, “Am I surrounding myself with people who are making a positive impact on my goals and the person I want to become?” “Do I personally know people that I can learn from and look up to?” If you do, great! Become best buddies with that person and learn from them, look up to them and their awesomeness. People who make a positive impact on our life are gems to be treasured. Absorb and take in everything that they do and learn from them. You may start to notice that the reason they are who they are and do what they do, is because they hold themselves to a higher standard.
By simply being around people who hold themselves to a higher standard it will help you do the same for yourself.
Make a conscious effort to meet new people.
This is what I want you to do if you find that you DON’T have the friends or network of people you want to become like. There are always different types of networking events in local cities where you can meet people. You can try to reach out to people directly via Linkedin or anywhere you go by introducing yourself and just putting yourself out there.
But to be honest, I have never loved the whole networking events, introduce yourself to random people thing. Some people love it and it works great for them, and more power to them! It’s just not my thing. What I do is start to follow someone I look up too, in a certain area I want to improve in.
For example, I love Rachel Hollis. I think what she is an incredible business woman and has been able to do inspiring things in her career, so I follow her and am a raving fan. I read all her books and blogs, I do her programs and follow her on all forms of social media.
This helps me in two ways, 1. Having a role model to look up to who lives a life that I respect, and 2. Has been a way for me to meet people through a common interest.
This method of meeting like-minded people with common interests can be done in so many different ways. My way of connecting with people has been through a business role model, but yours could be through a lifestyle blogger or an art class you are taking or even joining a rec sports league you are a part of. They are all great ways to meet new people.
Lead by example.
Whenever trying to level up your squad it is important to remember to START being the person you want to be for the people around you.
Finding new friends that help you grow and learn is super important, but it’s just as important to be a great friend and person towards the people in your life today. Regardless of how they treat you, make sure you always treat them with the love, respect, and support that you would want. Lead by example and show up as the best person that you can every day. We can’t always wait around for our hero to show up, sometimes we need to be our own hero.
By doing this, you will turn into that person that others look up to, seek out, and try to befriend because you are the person that they respect and love most. You will teach those around you how good friends or colleagues SHOULD treat each other. You will show them how they should act to become the best version of themselves.
Someone out there that you already know needs you to be the person they look up to and learn from.
Funny how that works. 😉
I hope this helps and inspires you to level up your squad. Surround yourself with people who support you, love you and believe in your dreams. If we all just tried to be a little better of a person to our friends and those in our lives imagine the impact we could all make on our world.
We can save the world, just like the Avengers. =]